|| LIFE IS A BALANCE ||

Someone rightly said Balance is a feeling derived from being whole and complete; it's a sense of harmony. It is essential to maintain the quality of life and work. I feel balanced life has a deeper meaning, I as an individual feel balance need to be learned from nature first. The huge tree grows high but its roots are down to the earth, they balance their existence and also they are confident about the earth who will take care even they grow big. Learn from the sun shines bright day arises and then the sunset darkness does come but with the moon and the stars do join to balance the brightness. It is summer or winter or rainy season, the sun the moon, and the stars balance the brightness in darkness. Birds who fly high do come to the earth to search for food for them. So however you fly but your survival is only possible if you learn to remain on the earth,  you can say recent generation words down to earth with self-belief and with belief where you exist will take care of you. Life balance is possible when you truly know how to make the best use of your life and know how to enjoy your life.

Karna the great warrior after getting killed in the Mahabharata war was received with honors at Heaven by Yama. He said you can enjoy Heaven as you have done great penance in the birth. Karna was happy and was enjoying the stint. After some time he felt hungry and asked inmates where food is served. Heavenly abodes were taken by shock and informed that in Heaven you don't feel hungry and no food is needed for them. The deva guru Brihaspathi watching this went into deep meditation and asked Karna to lick his index finger. Karna did the same and hunger was gone. Karna was surprised and asked the reason. Guru explained, "Karna in your birth you were a "giver" and have done all charity to needed. But you were not inclined to Anna dhaana which is foremost and that is the reason you felt hungry in Heaven. Karna asked, "then how the same had gone when I licked my index finger?" Guru explained "once a poor Brahmin came and asked food at your house. Since you generally don't do Anna Dhaana you refused but pointed out through your index finger a place where Anna Dhaanam was done. The Brahmin went there and had his food and got his hunger quenched. That 'Punya" was lying in your finger and hence you could feel the hunger had gone from you"!

Karna was in tears. He ran to Yama and pleaded for mortal form for one Paksha (fortnight). Yama asked him the reason and Karna said he wanted to do only Anna Dhaana in this Paksha. Yama was moved and granted him the same. Karna came to Earth and did Anna Dhaana in a place where nobody could identify him. He was so happy that this time was spent for a great cause. After a fortnight Yama came back and asked Karna to renounce the mortal body. Karna happily agreed. Yama felt moved by his gesture and said "anybody would have asked more time to stay on Earth and enjoy pleasures here. But you kept up your words and did exactly for what your mortal body was granted. Please ask a boon which will be granted" Karna said "Lord many people on Earth would have forgotten to feed their ancestors or anyone. Therefore if in this Paksha anyone offering food should reach the ancestors or souls who were deprived of offspring to do Karma for them" Yama happily granted the same and took Karna to Heaven. *Yama said, "anybody offering food in this Paksha is blessed and will also reach those who were not fortunate to be fed in Earth and Heaven"

Now if you see here in giving also you need to balance. Your attitude, your karma, your funds, your food in giving also you need to balance written in Mahabharata. Karna taught us time is king. Don't let time pass by doing anything. Live in your purpose with your passion may be in giving, make good memories with something unforgettable, live your best balance life. That is only possible if you are aware of what you are doing and why you are doing it? our purpose in life is made up of what we do, how we do it, how we feel, and how we make others feel. All are intertwined to create intangible value of trust.

Another aspect of balancing life working with kids and adults I have learned is that we need to balance our physical and mental health as well as our interpersonal and intrapersonal skills, our mind and our heart and our soul, and also our intelligence and our emotions. I have so many intelligent people who have so many expectations from themselves and then if they do not fulfill they get frustrated much faster, very hyper in executing thoughts but not focus. They overreact but if they balance their physical and mental executions then life becomes much easier. I remember I had a very intelligent kid who use to get upset with small things, will give up fast also gets hesitant to speak. I suggested parents involve him in physical activities he started doing wonders. life became more focused and balanced. learning physical exercises and learning education together mind never get exhausts, never fears and never regrets. Our concept of hearing hearts also work in this direction to be aware and balance our mental and physical health.

Recently I saw one child who had five people in the house to take care of. Just by doing gestures, he gets everything that why needs to talk. He runs here and there but doesn't know what to do? no patience to sit at one place. He understands everything about how to get attention from parents, grandparents, and maids. He is intelligent that without talking he can get his work done. But the behavior was destructive, throw something, not being organized, and many more such unacceptable behavior. Now with this child what we did is we started doing exercises and every exercise she gets do puzzle and she started solving. That made it so interesting that he started sitting at one place and also started having eye contact and started focusing too. Now here balancing played a very important role. We don't grow when things are easy, we grow when we face challenges.

Now, what was described in the earlier paragraph if you pay attention that if we don't work for such parameters in the early age of child then it continues throughout your life. you see so many people who are intelligent and if not guided properly land up having destructive behavior like a scamp, financial and even in relation with others and in behavior it reflects. But if guided well then those people come up with innovation and does good for themselves and also for the society. They are the one who knows how to balance work, family and own life is truly smart people think, brave people, talk and those great people who use smartness and also brave they act.

I feel if you want to succeed focus on changing yourself, not others. Learn to fly with balance in the air so you can enjoy flying as well as you feel comfortable walking on the earth as well. One needs to be successful with humbleness. They are the people who can learn or who knows life is balance.