|| No one is Perfect ||

One of the basic rules of the universe is nothing is perfect. Perfection simply doesn't exist. Without imperfection, none of us exist. Just imagine we as humans have a systematic plan for the day, 8 hours of work, 8 hours sleep, and 8 hours to do other things. We also have every day's measured and nutritious food habits. Get up on time and sleep on time, do regular exercise. At the workplace also we need to work with calmness, it is the place where every day new people come with new challenges. We need to be presentable, wear perfect iron clothes, matching shoes and other accessories. Nowadays the phone has become a necessity, so a smartphone with all the features which take care of my mood swings and environment is also important. I look to have a very disciplined helper in the house, so with me, all my family members are also disciplined and very systematic in doing everything. Get up on time and sleep on time though there is peer pressure, have best of the brands of materialistic things of life. Many more such types of daily routines if everyone starts doing with complete perfection then perfection will feel suffocation. In today's scientific world and revolution in the technology of life, however, you try or whatever best you do for yourself perfection never happens. In simple words, we can try to reach perfection but except for God, no one is perfect in this universe.

In one of the books of Krishna, there is a story of Trivaka. Her original name was Malini, she was working at Krishna's uncle Kansa's palace as one of the helpers who make lovely perfumes original from all the plants every day for King Kansa and his family members. She used to work for Kansa as her mother also used to do same work for the past many years. She was born beautiful and good-looking but at the age of 12 she got some disease and her organs became crocked and she started looking very ugly. She was a very simple, humble, and hard-working girl. People started laughing at her but she used to console herself and say it doesn't matter one day people will know my beauty. She had faith in Krishna, though she was not perfect look wise according to the so-called human being but her effort towards perfection was always there. She used to do her best in the work. She also tried hard to reach Krishna in whom she had trust. After few years she met Lord Krishna and said people feel I am very ugly and I am not beautiful but I work from my heart. Lord Krishna just touched her and made her look beautiful again and he beautifully explained to Trivaka that no one is perfect in this world. It's your effort towards perfection that counts.

I am a speech-language pathologist practicing for the last 30 years. I have studied in Gujarati medium so there are some dictions that are a little different for me. Over the years did I have improved substantially. But I still remember my kids when they were in school and many times with their friends we used to go out and play games specially for Bollywood songs and their actors. My kids specially used to make me say "saif " as according to the Gujarati language I was not distinct clear in saying "s" and "sh". In hurry as a habit, I used to say fast and not clear they used to laugh and very happily used to enjoy the moments that we are correcting our mom. Sometimes I feel imperfections are good they can give such beautiful moments. Today also many times I land up or purposely and unconsciously do such pronunciation and those moments create very beautiful laughter moments. In such a moment I feel no one should be perfect so at least you get more connected to people who want you to be perfect.

Today in a rat race of the scientific world we all are running to be perfect. Parents want to be perfect in growing their kids. We want to become perfect in having a good education. Any youngster whom you meet wants to earn so that they have a perfect lifestyle. A couple wants to have a perfect relationship so that they can live together. The family wants a good daughter or son-in-law so that their status gets maintained. We want to be perfect in seeing each other in food habits, education or having money and other facilities of life. Having such a practice we actually have lost the meaning of being perfect. I am not still ready to believe how is it possible to be perfect in each and every way when God has given us an individual personality with individual potential. Everyone cannot know or can do everything, for that we need each other. Perfection comes with unity and being with each other. Perfection is a beautiful thing that we need to work for and that only can be achieved as we believe in humanity. I feel those people who believe in humanity may reach to be perfect. No one is perfect but being together we can achieve perfection.

In 2006, I went the first time to present my poster on an international platform. There were only 14 posters from all over the world. Apart from my poster all the posters were from universities. The one who was judging our posters came to me and asked many questions. He said, "you are a private practitioner, and being a business woman why are you doing research?" Also he said, you are a stupid woman wasting your time. I was not having poster presentation or you can say perfect as others but I had the desire to be better than what I am as a professional. This attitude of mine impressed that professor who was our judge and he invited me to his institute and gave me personalized training in the research of hearing aids and how to program hearing aids in the best possible way by understanding the individual's requirement and today that learning has changed lives of so many hearing-impaired kids. Today's youngsters want everything very fast and for that, they try to be more perfect and in that get stressed more to be in the rat race. I believe we need to dream to be perfect but every perfection demands hard work and that is also possible if you have your own confidence.

Sometimes we need not question everything, some things have no answer, we need to make them remain that way. Do we ask snow why do you and how much you flow? What we see is after snow how beautiful the place looks. We visit Kashmir, Switzerland, Alaska, and Newzeland especially to see the beauty of snow. The love of mother and child is so pure and beautiful we just can't make it a perfect definition for the same. It just needs to be felt. we meet politicians or media persons who want to make a perfect city in their vicinity or in their news, but they don't see perfection comes from within and working together. If you really observe all the soldiers who are fighting for us, they all don't have similarities or perfection in learning everything but they observe each other and try to work and overcome each other's imperfections and work in unity to defeat the enemies. Even sports games like football, cricket, Kabbadi in each game everyone works with each other's imperfections and tries to compensate and work on each other's strengths. Why can't we do the same in our routine life also??? Accept no one is perfect, try to learn from each other's perfections, and work to establish positive results of winning and making a better world. 

Recently we did a workshop for 10-15 yrs old kids for emotions. In that, I had invited one of my students with whom I m doing stammering therapy and there were  5 deaf kids of the same age. This boy who had a stammering habit used to feel that I m not perfect like other normal kids and he used to feel frustrated with the kind of stammering habit he was suffering. We did activities of emotions and we made all the kids colour the jars with different colours and moods. Though the deaf kids were having difficulty, they feel the jars with all colours, the colours were showing their calmness with challenges. But this child with stammering drew only the colour of anger. He had developed stress with the unnecessary thought processes that he cant speak well. Throughout the session deaf kids were so enthusiastic and seeing this, the child with the stammering habit realized that thinking about his imperfections was destroying the best part of his life. Though he has all the organs active he is doing unnecessary efforts to compete for imperfections.

No one is perfect and it's just impossible to be perfect. There's no definition that defines the word perfect. What I believe is, If anyone thinks of being perfect they should look at such special kids, learn from them, grab that opportunity which was absent in the past, available in present, and might be even thrice in future. Never lose your hope to be perfect, as no one is perfect.