|| To Change your Life Change your Priorities ||

When I think of life, how do we need our lives to be? I as an individual who believes in positivity feel that life should have a purpose and that purpose should be "To Be Happy". Years passed took birth to this universe, grew like any other normal child, and understood life, and how it should be? I learned skills, learned to earn money, learned to raise my kids, and learned to be responsible for family and also for community, and country. Through the whole process of growth, I met so many human beings like me and saw that everyone has some or other challenges in life. Some work over challenges and try to be courageous and some struggle with challenges and sometimes give up their lives also. What I have realized especially during this pandemic that a positive attitude toward everything makes all the challenges of life much easier. I decided to make a change in myself and realized that by making a change in myself, I can also make a change around me. I started writing about positivity and today I make this skill my priority. However difficult it may be, however busy a schedule I have, wherever I am traveling I don't miss an opportunity to write on weekdays so that I can publish my article on Thursday as it gives me immense happiness. 

Lord Krishna was having education by Guru Sandipani. Once guru called him to discuss a specific issue and Lord Krishna was very aware of it. Lord Krishna was born in the Yadav community and the guru wanted him to understand that since the community is growing you need a bigger place to stay. According to the guru, a community should not only grow financially but also should have a bigger place to stay and breathe. In earlier days the king used to fight against small communities and used to include them in their community so that community keeps growing. Guru also gave a suggestion to Lord Krishna that there is one territory where father and daughter have very strong relations and if you marry her, the community will grow faster, also without hurting anyone. Lord Krishna was aware of all the pros and cons of the situation and the situation of both small and big communities, hence he remained very neutral in his answers. Lord Krishna left the decision to happen naturally without getting influenced by anyone to grow any community rather than doing spoon-feeding or protecting one should allow each and every individual to grow. If each and every individual works on their own skills then change will happen beautifully and also an individual's priorities will become much clear.

We have heard the story of a girl who lost her leg in an accident and become a physically special able child but still never gave up on her dream. Though earlier her priority was like any other normal kid to study but now after losing her leg her only priority was to overcome the physical challenges she was facing and to prove herself. Through her best dedication, she decided to climb Mount Everest and she achieved it! There is a soldier's wife who lost her husband while fighting for the country, hence the wife decided to join the army and she did that! Recently through social media, we have seen so many kids who are underprivileged where parents have done so much hard work to make them reach near normal. Some of the specially challenged people also won titles for our country during the Paralympics. I have also heard about blind people having their own orchestra, and some physically challenged people also have done dancing on chairs without any difficulty. Why am I saying so many stories? because every story decided to make a change and their priorities were only to prove themselves as they knew what they have to do and they made it their priority.

I have met so many parents who have been working, very well educated and suddenly leave everything for their child as the child becomes their priority, especially mothers but suddenly while taking care of the child they somehow forget their education. They get too panicked and worried about their child. Some mothers' concentration goes only to compare their children with the same age as other kids. They pamper the kids with everything from toilet training, feeding, and educating, to learning other skills. They just don't allow their child to grow, or to be independent, and then they get worried. They forget, how you as an individual have grown even the next generation needs to learn to be independent. I remember seeing 8th class students getting shoe lace tied with help of fathers and kids having education online and many more issues which can be handled. If you see specially challenged people individually fighting to overcome their own challenges. They don't need any other support system. Parents need to make child read, read and read, and let them find answers to their questions on their own, instead of making them learn to rely on others we need to educate and make them independent.

Recently I met a mother who takes tuition for maths and science subjects for secondary school students but she doesn't know how to deal with her 4-year-old kid who doesn't know how to speak or eat on her own. I have seen a father who is a well-known builder but doesn't know how to handle his spastic child. Having a child or specially-abled child your life changes but changing priorities should be very clear. Whether your priority is to allow your child to grow independently or allow the child with all the facilities and then regret the child is not progressing? There is a certain group of parents or people whose social commitments are higher than child's growth. We have seen parents busy with family functions and not getting child regular for therapy and we have seen parents who are very busy working but still take out time and come for therapy as they are very conscious about their child's progress and their priorities are very clear.

In an Indian wedding, the bride and groom go around the fire 7 times in the marriage ritual. A maths teacher explained this concept very well. Each circle has 360 degrees. Now if we see from numbers 1 to 9 it is only the number 7 which cannot divide 360. Hence the bride and groom go around the fire 7 times to ensure that nothing can divide them. But after marriage one goes through a lot of change. There are new relations and new bonds attached. But one will have to understand each and every family member's needs and try to make changes in the lifestyle. To make life go smoothly and create a bond that cannot be divided giving priority to each other's needs also becomes a priority. If one starts understanding this need for time and priority then nothing can divide them.

 

Being in any profession or being an individual when we decide something to do in life or you can say make a change in life, your priorities in life should be very clear. In what situation how you behave is also important. If one has a lot of knowledge but is not good in behavior then the image spoils and in such circumstances, one needs to understand that when behavior needs to be given priority or knowledge needs to be given priority.  If you learn to balance your life then priority is when your family needs, you need to be there. When your kids need you, you need to plan accordingly. When your professional commitments demand, you need to do that, and when your country or community demands, you need to be there. The best example of this is soldiers of our country whose priorities are very clear. When will we all learn that? Recently I met a mother who had stammering and she was blaming herself as his son also started stammering. She used to feel guilty about that and the child was also under pressure as he was not able to see his mother's pain and his own challenges. Father used to be very busy so I said the mother to at least tell him to talk to me on phone. Father called up and I said I see your child and wife both need your warmth, keep them as your first priority, sit with them and spend some quality time.

The prompt response of the father towards both of them as priority made a sudden change, the boy came next time and said what did you do to my father. There is a 360-degree change. I feel my life is really normal? No stress, had a wonderful dinner last weekend with my father and now I feel like I am stammering but I will enjoy talking. This story narrates that a small change in priority at right time can make so much of a difference? My writing articles on positivity and my passion to work with hearing-impaired people have changed my life or you can say to make a change in my life now these two things to be positive and an aura of hope for the hearing-impaired is my top priority. I have already set my priorities what about you all???