Positivity in Relationships....

I love this statement, and it is true in the sense that in a relationship, the most important aspect between two people is the ability to hear what isn’t being said. For example, when a baby is born and cries, the mother immediately realizes or senses whether her child is hungry, unwell, or upset. Without the child knowing, she acts on it. A mother instinctively ensures that her child doesn’t cry for long. She uses her intuition, thought process, or even seeks advice from experienced people to comfort her baby. What a beautiful relationship between a mother and her child! This bond mirrors the relationship between God and a true devotee. The moment a devotee faces difficulty, God performs miracles to help them overcome their problems without stress. We’ve often heard stories about Lord Rama, Lord Krishna, and their devotees. When relationships are deeply understood, there is no need for words—they simply exist for each other. Such relationships carry eternal positivity. However, in today’s fast-paced, selfie-obsessed world, these meaningful connections seem to be disappearing.

In today’s generation, from the moment a child is born, many parents who can afford it entrust the child’s care to helpers. In some cases, both parents work, so they place the child in daycare. The demands of life are high, exposure and social commitments are increasing, and the competition to survive requires hard work. However, this should not distance us from understanding what our child feels. It’s a matter of perception. A mother or father must understand their child’s needs and act accordingly, even when the child cannot express them. Many parents come to us, unsure about what their child loves the most—whether it’s listening to music, reading, running, walking, or enjoying delicious food. If the foundation of the parent-child relationship is not strong from childhood, how can it grow and flourish in the future?

Your fear, anxiety, and insecurity towards someone you are closely connected with can damage the relationship. For example, if your boss is strict and often gets angry, you might hesitate to convey bad news directly. If your boss learns about the issue from a third party, it can cause them to lose confidence in you, creating distance in the relationship. On the other hand, if you communicate openly—even when it’s uncomfortable—and face the boss’s occasional rudeness (which may simply be part of their nature), the relationship can grow positively. Over time, mutual understanding and trust will strengthen your working relationship, leading to better results for the company. Having trust in each other is the biggest mantra for building and maintaining a positive relationship.

I was discussing with one of my patients how deeply the mind and body are connected. This patient lost her voice due to vocal cord palsy two years ago. After losing her voice, her anxiety about it increased significantly. She consulted a doctor, was given medication, and recovered. However, during that time, the stress she put on herself to speak persisted. Over the last two years, she developed a habit of speaking with strain and experiencing pitch breaks. I analyzed her voice using my software and found that her voice was actually fine; she had simply developed incorrect speaking habits. As a person, she has a hyper nature, gets worried easily, and experiences a lot of anxiety, even though she has everything she needs in life. I explained to her that the stress in her mind was reflecting in her voice. If she changes the way she thinks and works on reducing her mental stress, her voice will improve.

She sincerely worked on her voice, and within a week, the pitch breaks in her voice improved by 50%. She simply needed to understand the connection between her mind and body. We have one brain that thinks and develops intelligence, and another smaller brain that coordinates bodily movements. All the muscles responsible for motor coordination are interconnected. If one part of the body experiences stress, the other muscles also become tense. It’s important to stay relaxed in our actions, even if we accidentally encounter stress in our body. I explained to her that, just as we teach hearing-impaired individuals the difference between hearing and the pleasure of hearing, positivity in relationships teaches us the difference between merely living life and experiencing the true pleasure of life.

In the Garud Puran, it is written that when Garud traveled across the world, he observed that people everywhere face numerous problems in their lives. On Earth, people struggle to survive due to various challenges. In heaven, the devas face difficulties because of the presence of asuras (devils) around them. Across the universe, beings encounter obstacles such as diseases, paperwork, and other challenges that make life difficult. The root cause of these struggles is often the lack of trust and faith in their loved ones. This lack of harmony and understanding leads to suffering. According to the Garud Puran, if you cheat or betray your loved ones, you will face consequences in some form, as the universe has its way of delivering justice. This is a proven fact, as emphasized in the sacred text.

It is often said that relationships are made in heaven, and the strength of this belief plays a significant role in nurturing them. The more trust and faith you place in a relationship, the stronger and more resilient it becomes. However, the moment insecurity creeps in, the foundation of the relationship begins to erode. Doubts and fears start to overshadow trust, causing the relationship to lose its value and essence. True relationships thrive on mutual confidence, understanding, and unwavering belief in one another, serving as a reminder that trust is the cornerstone of every meaningful bond.

Positivity in relationships is rooted in trust, faith, and mutual understanding. Just as the Garud Puran teaches that the challenges we face in life are often reflections of the strength or weakness of our connections with others, the key to overcoming life's difficulties lies in nurturing genuine, honest relationships. The more we believe in the value of our relationships, the more resilient they become, enabling us to weather any storm together. Insecurity, doubt, and betrayal can break down this foundation, but when we choose to trust and support one another, relationships grow stronger and more fulfilling. Ultimately, positivity in relationships is not just about surviving life’s challenges; it’s about thriving together, creating an environment where love, faith, and honesty flourish.