|| Happy Father's Day! Who is a Gentle Male..?? ||

Happy Father's Day!

|| Who is a Gentle Male..?? ||

I'm going to talk about, "A gentle male" who can be a father/ lover/husband or a friend. This universe has two prominent personalities: "A gentle male" and "A gentle female". Both of them play a very important role in the growth and movement of the universe. They're human beings who have a developed brain to think unlike creatures like animals and birds. A gentle male has the responsibility to organize and execute the major tasks like earning money for the family or being the main person of the family who has to take care of the family physically, psychologically, emotionally and spiritually. Recently, we celebrated Fathers' Day worldwide and also Mothers' Day as a symbol of both having their own existence. Many times, as females we feel that we do more than males or we feel they have more power than us but it's just our perception. Both are equal only both have different roles to play in life. Here, I'm only going to talk about the positive and best roles of "A GENTLE MALE" that I have observed in my life.

 

 

Lord Krishna, for me, is an ideal gentle male. He has qualities like the seven colors of the rainbow. To start with safety, he always took care of dignity of all Gopis, Radha, his wives and his mothers, Yashoda and Devki.  The second quality is acceptance. He accepted all the lady love in his life as they were; he never tried to change them. Third quality is feelings. He had abundant feelings for everyone. No one complained about his feelings getting shared. In fact, when all the Gopis were missing his presence, he made them believe he exists in everyone's heart. Fourth quality is being s moral support system. Whenever Vrijwasis were in difficult situations or any new activities needed to be planned, he was always there to encourage everyone. The fifth quality is sacrifice. The biggest step ever taken by Lord Krishna, to let his own people survive was that he sacrificed his most valuable love for Radha. He never looked back and worked very hard to make people understand real dharma. The sixth quality is friendship; be it with Gop, Gopis or Pandavas, he kept all his promises that any friend would keep. The seventh one is communication. Through his communication, he changed so many lives in the right direction. Whether good or bad, he will always communicate and let people know the reality. In today's "gentle male", do we find these qualities?

I remember we used to go to play navratri. If, at night, all the boys were there in the group then girls' parents used to be relaxed as they felt that boys will take care of girls. Girls going out at night always feel secure if boys accompany them. Gentle females, now-a-days, have also become partners in earning yet they feel most secure when thet just lay on their husband's chest and get warmth of security. Between two spouses, a gentle female always wishes that a gentle male should be there for her, give her warmth and security so that she feels safe. None of the environmental issues will affect her. Her fear of the outside world will go away if she is secure with the person she loves. The best example is a daughter feeling so secure when her father is around her to protect her. I have seen so many gentle males whose feelings for their gentle females is so special that they don't even mind or think to put their house in her name so that she has security for herself all the time. This quality of gentle males cannot go unnoticed.

Many times, in conversations, in lighter moods, a gentle male will say that I agree with whatever she says! As he always believes, "why to make a small matter a big issue?" They keep many matters within themselves and accept the ways their gentle female needs. Here again, any father for his daughter or any lover for his girlfriend will love to do everything if they love truly. They will do all the possible things to keep them happy. Compared to gentle females, gentle males react less and try to settle it quietly than talking out loud about it. The best quality of gentle males is that, one female will not help another so easily but one gentle male is always ready to help others as they believe in giving friendly support.

The fourth quality of gentle males is feelings. They do have feelings but they can't express easily. Gentle females may cry or fight or burst out but majority of gentle males will keep it with them silently as it's in their nature. However, whatever difficult time they face in the office or earning money, they will not discuss or involve their spouses or family in it. It will stick to their heart throughout their life and majority of the time will go with them. We, gentle females, must pay special attention to this. How we need them, they also need us. Their feelings are internal which we need to notice. The fifth quality of males is sacrifice. Many times we say that a female does all the sacrifice; it is true but it's also true that males equally sacrifice as well. In a lighter tone, females, many times, will say I will leave the house and go but gentle males will never do that. He will sacrifice whatever best he can.

 

The last two and best qualities of gentle males is communication and support. I have seen so many gentle males having faith in their relationship even though there is no strength in it. Gentle females can stop talking but gentle males will never do that. He will quietly digest his anger, take a deep breath and will decide to move on. The "Whom you call a gentle man" video made by Ayushman Khurana became viral on social media. All over the world so many females kept talking about "me too" and did say that many men took advantage for their feelings but none of the gentle males took on a  revolution as they accepted and felt responsible to what they did and accepted their mistakes.

 

I'm not taking the side of any males but I feel they need equal respect. They cannot cry like us. Not many definitions are made for gentle males compared to gentle females. They also get tired, managing their responsibilities. They also have to fight through a lot of issues, politics at office and managing several unexpected earthquakes there. They don't have to cook or clean vessels but they do have to face storms coming the way all the time in the office. They don't get periods and back or headache issues like females. When they meet friends, they don't talk about their home issues like fights with mother-in-law etc, their relaxation is just a laughing session with friends.

Today, as God has made gentle females and males, both have brains that think and equal responsibilities. Gentle males also have their dreams, they do have fear, they also get scared of darkness and also need a helping hand. Over the years, they have been labeled to move around with a lot of responsibilities. Sometimes it becomes a burden for them. Due to difficult circumstances, they also feel scared but they don't show it so easily. Though a gentle male knows that dreams are not available in shopping malls or in high end markets but still he will keep his pocket tight with all his family members' dreams and will try to accomplish that.

Today, specially in this difficult time, the best positivity can come out in this universe if both gentle males and females work and understand each other. We appreciate seven qualities of males like the seven colors of the rainbow. As a rainbow also needs rain to start, similarly, we, as gentle females, also need to shower our feelings for them. On this Fathers' Day, I salute all gentle males and those who are trying to become gentle males. I hope we, together with sharing responsibilities equally, can make this world better to live. HAPPY FATHERS' DAY.

Dedicated to all fatherly figure.